Jumping into motherhood in 2019 turned my world upside down in the best way possible. Now, I’m juggling a sassy two-year-old girl, a curious four-year-old boy, and another little one on the way. Being present for my children is arguably the most important thing in my world right now. People often ask me, “How do you balance it all as a working mom?”

Well, it’s a bit like juggling—some days, I catch everything, and other days, not so much. The trick is finding joy in the chaos and embracing the fact that no two days are the same. When I’m not brainstorming for my businesses, I read books on gentle parenting and how to foster emotional intelligence in my children. It’s all about finding that sweet spot between running a business, building pillow forts, and being all in. It’s not about doing it all perfectly- it’s about being present in everything you do.

Bexley
Daxton

The Momtrepreneur Journey

Honestly, I should’ve penned this article a year ago while juggling two full-time jobs in medicine and running a real estate business on the side. Finding balance in that chaos was nearly impossible, but now, I’m on the other side, feeling more grounded in work and home life.

When my husband and I decided to dive into real estate, we knew it would mean time away from the kids. But our discussions mainly revolved around how crucial it was for them to learn about running a business and the value of hard work. We both believe that your priorities become your kids’ priorities.

Strengths as Working Mom

One of the most important things to understand is that if you are a working mom and plan to become an entrepreneur, your schedule becomes your lifeline. I’m meticulous about my time, steering clear of phone-scrolling pitfalls as much as possible. I’ve mastered the art of multitasking to the point where it’s a bit of a blessing and a curse- as I sometimes struggle to focus on one thing.

If I have any free time while working, I spend it designing a social media post, working on my schedule, comping houses in the pipeline, checking and responding to team emails, or making outlines for upcoming articles. It’s not always easy, but my always-on brain is a unique asset that helps me navigate my professional life. I learned how unique this skill was when running a business with my husband and how I cannot expect everyone’s brain to work like mine.

Weaknesses as Working Mom

However, multitasking can be a double-edged sword. On busier days, I have to consciously resist the urge to blend playtime with my kids and work tasks. They need moments of undivided attention, which doesn’t come naturally when my mind is racing.

Another weakness I have noticed is the constant belief that I can do it all. Rarely turning anything down, I always chase the next deal and opportunity. I also take on many responsibilities and projects myself because I always feel I can do it better. I’m not the best delegator of tasks. I am working on improving this; check back with me in a year to see how this is going.

Balancing Act: Juggling Work and Motherhood

Let’s face it: there’s no magic wand to make the day longer; we’re stuck with the same 24 hours. Some days, the balancing act is smoother than others. I focus more on the big picture of my schedule rather than the nitty-gritty day-to-day. One week, it’s 40-50 clinic hours and 20-30 business hours, leaving me feeling like I missed out on kid time. Then, there are those weeks with just 10-20 clinic hours, 20 business hours, and plenty of quality time with my little ones.

Successes

I had a conversation with a Physician recently about my life, business, and the impending arrival of baby number three. The first thing out of his mouth was, “You can’t do it all.” I have to admit that my first response was, “Watch me.” To be honest, I think I am doing a pretty good job at holding it all together. A huge key to my success is who I married. My husband is a fantastic dad who often plays the Mr. Mom role by making dinners, doing laundry, and performing other household duties that I don’t necessarily have time to do. I wouldn’t be able to do what I do without his support.

But, moms, let’s be honest, dads are awesome, but there’s just some stuff the kids prefer their mom to do. Nothing beats Mom. So, another big success that I have in this juggling act is finding ways to include my kids in what I am doing. I have taken my kids on house tours, held them during work meetings, and let them play with their busy boxes right next to me while I type contracts. They appreciate being next to Mom and not just hearing, “Mommy has to get this done; go play.”

Failures

I must admit that working two full-time jobs was not intentional. It was my way of getting out of one job and into another without causing too much strain on the job I was leaving- people I cherish. But it was definitely a failure in the mom-life balance department. My kids picked up on the absence, and although they tried to be understanding, there was no way for their little minds to comprehend why I did that. Although I made a lot of money, which was very helpful with projects and goals we had going on, it was not worth the time I spent away from the kids. I don’t plan to be doing that again anytime soon.

Tips for Finding Balance as Working Mom

The instinct of motherhood is that your kids come before everything else, sometimes even above your spouse. I’m no exception, as those are my tendencies as well. But here’s the deal- I also want my kids to learn things I wasn’t taught, like managing money, investing, running a business, and building long-term wealth. So, as a working mom, finding the balance between quality time with my kids and the hustle of business is critical.

Setting Realistic Goals

Admittedly, I’ve had days where I thought I could conquer the world by sunset. I had to take a significant cut on my real estate business to have more time at home and do other projects I wanted. I knew I had to scale down to be manageable until I could delegate more parts of that business to someone else. Setting realistic goals is essential while balancing being a mom and an entrepreneur. On the surface, I can envy moms with a 9-to-5 routine, but deep down, I crave more for myself. Plus, I know I am a better mom when I feel fulfilled professionally and personally.

Don’t Overcommit

We’ve all been there- tempted to say yes to every meeting and every opportunity. I admitted earlier that I very rarely turn opportunities down. But, let’s be real, one meeting can mean a whole morning away from the kids and a missed breakfast together. I try not to overcommit my schedule and arrange things during the days I plan to be working. It is okay to say, “Sorry, can’t make it,” because you’re headed to your kid’s martial arts class or a school event. I try to focus on days off/times off where I don’t miss events. I won’t make it to every soccer game-that’s the nature of my job, but I want to make it to every soccer game and martial arts class I can, so that they know I show up for them and care about what they are into. My next goal is to keep my cool at my 4-year-old’s soccer game (they are painful to competitive people).

Being Present as Working Mom

travel as working mom

Even if I didn’t have the schedule that I have, I would want to master this skill. Being present with your kids is the only thing that matters to them. I was listening to a podcast recently, and they were discussing whether your kids would rather have a more expensive house or spend more time with their mom and dad. The answer is simple: at least while they are little, your quality time and presence in their life is more important than any monetary value.

We fully understand that our kids won’t truly appreciate anything we have done for them or the businesses we start/run until they are much older, so I don’t want to look back on my life and wish I was with them more. They are only small for such a short period of time. Enjoy it. Be present when you are with them. Don’t waste your time. Set aside time for them and make memories. Make what is important to them important to you.

Quality time

For me, the real magic in this juggling act is all about the quality time with my kids. We’re big on travel- it’s not just about escaping our hometown but crafting memories with our little ones. We don’t take a trip every time I am off, so even in our daily routine, I am particular about carving out moments dedicated to them. Every day, especially if I’m headed to work, I make sure to spend the first hour when my kids wake up, soaking up every moment with them. Nothing is better than morning cuddles. We also schedule a sacred family night each week. We all pile into Mom and Dad’s room, watch a movie, and sleep over in our bed.

Travel as working mom

Admittedly, we don’t spend much time away from our children. Some months, that means date nights with my husband don’t get scheduled, but we also know that this season is temporary, and one of our biggest priorities right now is to be with our kids as much as we can while doing our best to balance the rest of our lives.

Overcoming guilt

Perhaps it’s not exclusive to moms, but let’s talk about it- mom guilt is a real thing, and I’m right there in the trenches, figuring it out like everyone else. I have good and bad days when it comes to having mom guilt.

There are weeks when my schedule goes into overdrive, and as my kids adjust to me being away more, that guilt starts to creep in. But, more often than not, I combat the guilt by reminding myself that I spend more days at home than the average person working a 9-5. Every hustle, every busy day- it’s all for the promise of more time freedom with my little ones down the road. It’s my way of balancing the scales and making it work.

Societal expectations

Luckily, I don’t lose much sleep over what others think or say. I’m all about doing what feels right whenever it feels right. Besides, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I can’t have it any other way. It would be impossible for me to shut off the entrepreneurial spirit or be comfortable working a 9-5 for the rest of my life. I want more for myself and don’t think I could turn that part of my brain off. But assuredly, working moms don’t meet societal expectations, and it might be difficult to let some of these expectations go. At least you can find some rest knowing that I genuinely believe this non-conformity makes me a better mom. It’s all for my kids in the end, and trust me, you can keep those wheels turning and make it all happen, or at least a big part of it.

Conclusion

Being a working mom truly is about finding balance in the chaos. I know it is possible, I know my kids will benefit from all of this one day, and I know that as long as they stay more important to me than more money and more opportunities, I’m confident I can keep straddling the line between being a great mom and a great business owner/worker.

Besides, I’m competitive as hell, so the more people tell me I can’t do it all, the more I will prove I can. Stay tuned for more balance in the chaos stories. As always, reach out for any questions!