Living in a world of instant gratification and social media influencers, I feel almost obligated to write about all the successes I have had in business and medicine. We are programmed to look at highlight reels of people’s lives and businesses and try to replicate that for ourselves. But what about the struggles? Since I have taken a lot more L’s than W’s in business the past few months and have struggled in management in medicine, I have had some writer’s block. But in the spirit of being authentic and trying to shed light on the gritty realities of business and medicine, I wanted to answer the question, “Why do I pursue these paths in medicine and business that are filled with challenges when it would be easier not to?”


The Challenges in Business


There’s no glamorous way to talk about the struggles in business and entrepreneurship. My life currently looks a lot different than it did 2.5 years ago when I started my real estate business. This stage of life is busy with two kids participating in extracurricular activities, one more on the way in a few weeks, a new job in medicine that requires my daily attention, and my husband stepping away from our real estate business to focus on his direct-to-client real estate sales.

The realities I have been facing aren’t the flashy assignment fees and glamourous new flips I want to post about. In the past six months, we have dealt with our first lawsuit for “failure to perform” on a contract, virtual assistant (VA) turnover, multiple deals falling through, and losing some money on a few deals. It hasn’t all been bad, but I’ve been battling to find enough time to manage everything with all of life’s other challenges. I am feeling the highs and lows of business ownership right now more than I have and am trying to avoid social media’s 30-second business highlight reels.

Running your own business means clocking long hours, taking financial risks, having the potential to lose money, and stretching your days to fit the most in. Sometimes, it means working until midnight after the kids are in bed, responding to emails, writing articles, or organizing texting campaigns. Sometimes, it feels stagnant, especially in the real estate business that I chose- deals come and go, some contracts make it to closing, some fall through, and lately, it feels similar to nailing jelly to a wall. You have to stay focused on the “why,” or you will assuredly quit.



The Why in Business


I would be lying if I said I haven’t considered giving it up. It would be easier on my marriage, my work-life balance, my 8-month pregnant body, and my sleeping habits to put a pause on the business right now, especially through our recent struggles. So, what keeps me going? The intrinsic drive to financial independence is number one. Number two is the high potential for reward. Time freedom, money freedom, and freedom from ultimately having to do anything that I don’t want to do is what business and entrepreneurial success can do for me.

Thirdly, the passion I have for it. Just like I am passionate about medicine, I really love learning and working in real estate. I see so much potential for my financial future and the value I can add to my children’s future by learning and teaching them about real estate. Fourth, I know overnight success is a myth; nothing that is worth it will come easily. Most people who fail in the first year give up. Success number one: I made it past that point. For now, I am choosing to look at setbacks and losses as lessons for the future instead of just failures, which helps me navigate times like this. I can learn from anything, and ultimately, I believe I can always make more money (so it’s not the end of the world if I lose some of it).




  My biggest ‘WHY”



The Challenges in Medicine


I left my comfortable ER job to take a management role as a lead provider in urgent care, feeling that I had more to offer medicine than just patient care. My constant drive to always want more is both a blessing and a curse. There are days when I think how much easier it was in my ER job, where my only concern was the care I was delivering. I have now shifted to being a leader who constantly tries to find ways to improve our patient care, clinic operations, and our providers’ work lives.

I have transformed from an employee who clocks in and out to a manager who seemingly needs to be always available. The days I spend working my clinical shifts get filled up with taking care of my own patients, answering 10+ phone calls from providers or other team members with questions I need to answer, and completing admin tasks in any “downtime .”As a lead provider, I must hold other providers accountable for their patient care, following policies and procedures, and their behaviors in the clinic. I say this not to complain about my role or to brag about how much I feel like I am doing but to show the difference between a management role and an employee. PRN work in the ER is now a walk in the park compared to my urgent care shifts.



The Why in Medicine


If it causes so much stress, why don’t I just leave and take another job as an employee? Although the illusion of this is tempting, especially for the same pay, I know my brain needs more. I want to be a policymaker because I want to streamline procedures for the providers in the clinic. I want to participate in higher-level conversations because I am learning about business and leadership. It’s important to me to be the go-to person our providers talk to because it’s making me a better leader, and I am learning to navigate difficult conversations. It’s about self-growth, pushing myself out of my comfort zone, and always looking for ways to make myself more marketable.



Embrace the Journey


In this season, where I can’t brag about the $50,000 deal I just made or the big promotion I just got, I am embracing the messy reality and appreciating that I have the opportunities to be in the right rooms to succeed. I am getting comfortable being authentic and not feeling like I need to be perfect and have everything figured out. 

If you are struggling with entrepreneurship or your job in medicine, be encouraged that you aren’t alone. This difficult season is teaching me to redefine success on my terms, find fulfillment in the journey, and realize that success isn’t just a destination. The path will be filled with twists and turns. But you fail at 100% of the things you give up on, so perseverance is key.




I plan to write more about the specific struggles I have experienced in business over the last few months. Still, I wanted to be authentic by sharing how down I am currently feeling and how I am overcoming it. Don’t watch those social media highlight reels and let them affect your motivation. The reality for most is that you won’t find overnight success. But you can find your own level of success with drive, hustle, and perseverance. I encourage you to make sure you are seated at the right tables that will present opportunities and help you persevere through hardships.

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